Expect the unexpected – Birthday message 2014
The beautiful truth is that every day is a second chance at happiness…. a chance to do better and to be better (in one way, or every way) than before. This has been perhaps the most difficult birthday message to write because out of the blue my world was turned upside down in the best way possible by a man I still can’t describe or sum up in just a handful of words or a few sentences. My thoughts have seemed unfocused and floundering, looking for an idea to grasp hold of as I step into my 33rd year. In the past 2 weeks, Sheldon shook my view of the future to which I had happily resigned myself (a joyful loneliness, but loneliness nonetheless) and swept me away with his sincerity, his kindness and devotion so intense I cannot say that it is new, it is more like something ancient, a lost treasure, rediscovered. Of all the birthdays I’ve had, I haven’t felt more treasured in ages. And I think I appreciate it more now because of what the last 5 years has been like, but also because it (he!) is so completely unexpected.
We are capable of reaching such great heights when we let go of our expectations, live in the moment and live with the joyful attitude that at any moment life can present a wonderful, breathtaking surprise… so I will let that be my wish for you in this year: May you be surprised by joy, transported by love and overwhelmed by a sense of well-being, for all is truly well and as it should be, as much today when the new love is fresh and fabulous as when a couple of weeks ago someone like Sheldon seemed a complete impossibility.
I leave you tonight with a quote that has crossed my path in different places and different times more than once in the last few weeks, and pray that it will mean something for you as it has for me, from the late Maya Angelou:
“I’ve learned that no matter what happens, or how bad it
seems today, life does go on, and it will be better tomorrow. I’ve learned that
you can tell a lot about a person by the way he/she handles these three things:
a rainy day, lost luggage, and tangled Christmas tree lights. I’ve learned that
regardless of your relationship with your parents, you’ll miss them when they’re
gone from your life. I’ve learned that making a living is not the same thing as
making a life. I’ve learned that life sometimes gives you a second chance.
I’ve learned that you shouldn’t go through life with a catcher’s mitt on both
hands; you need to be able to throw some things back. I’ve learned that whenever
I decide something with an open heart, I usually make the right decision. I’ve
learned that even when I have pains, I don’t have to be one. I’ve learned that
every day you should reach out and touch someone. People love a warm hug, or
just a friendly pat on the back. I’ve learned that I still have a lot to learn.
I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you
did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.”
Finally, for Sheldon… You are wonderful beyond words, my darling, and wherever this road takes us, may you still smile at me 80 years from now the same way you do now, and may you always remember that you are precious and loved.